sex and relationships
im back, i’ve got somethin i need to get off my chest, it’s about a movie that i saw and it’s beautiful…
it’s about sex and relationships, when you first hear about it, sex and relationships is a very broad, very hard topic to discuss coz its everything is based on opinions and experiences, whatever you have got to say about sex and relationships depends on your experience of it. the difference between sex and love…
sex is an id thing. it’s part of instinct like eating, drinking, sleeping… it’s survival… without sex, there’s no continuation of existence, no children to make grandchildren, everything stops. sex is a necessity. this is how animals think of what sex is. just another thing to do to survive. but we define sex differently from them. yes, for us sex too is a necessity but it’s not as easy to do or as easy to get as eating drinking and sleeping. it’s far more complicated than that. sex can be bought but there would not be meaning into it. what matters more is love. having sex with a stranger you just met in a bar last night is different from making love with someone you’ve been in love with in a long long time. no comparison.
love is a leap of faith. it’s like diving in the water not knowing when it’s shallow or deep. there’s no guarantees. if it’s shallow then sure you’re gonna get hurt and paralyzed from the neck down but when it’s deep… how would you describe it? it’s like those carvinal games, some of them are very hard to win and and some are very easy that everyone wins a little prize. that’s the difference between love and sex. sex is the game when everyone wins a little prize and nobody goes home a loser. love is the game that’s very hard to win, it would take you several tries coz its very hard to win, but if you do then you’re gonna take home that life size stuffed teddy bear. it feels a whole lot better than taking home that shitty little plastic keychain. it’s something you have to work very hard on. it’ll take time to get it. and there’s no guarantee of getting it at all.
thanks for spending time!
GBY
maRu
February 27th, 2008 at 3:20 pm
very well said=| (Sigh)
February 28th, 2008 at 3:40 pm
I believe that sex is not triggered by instinct. sex is not a drive- not to human beings. unlike other species, some men consider sex (that rooted from love) as a tension in the body that they have to get rid off and obtain a homeostatic balance ( it is a cycle after all). but most of the time sex becomes a will to pleasure, not necessarily controlled by triggers in the environment, which makes a deviation between men and other living organisms.
I believe that love (or emotion)is the key to why people are special being. Love and sex are symbiotic. They come together and as far as a good relationship is concerned.
without love, sex is just an incentive. It is just a motive to gain pleasure, like gambling or smoking crack or whatever.
I hope I said it clear. I was jut browsing pages but lol i was entertained by your blog. thanks man! good job.